Thanks
The comments in the last post have been so supportive, so I give you all a heartfelt "Thanks."
DH can't keep a secret for long, so after telling the kids the other night, he decided to call his family yesterday to let them in on the secret. Reception, as he said, was typical: his mom and aunt seemed excited, and his dad created a new ulcer for himself. OK, so not really an ulcer, but his reaction wasn't as positive as MIL and aunt. It all stems for concern for my health, which I really don't comprehend given my history. OK, so yeah, we did lose two babies in the second trimester, but that had absolutely nothing to do with how I take care of myself during pregnancy. Those losses, we were told, were chromosomal in nature and there's a 25% chance of such a loss happening again.
BUT, (and it's a big one, eh?) all my other pregnancies have been so healthy, so uneventful, so blessedly normal that I think that fact alone should outweigh any worry about my health. I've never had problems with hypertension or gestational diabetes. And while none of the labors/births after our second miscarriage (which occurred after our third child) have come close to being as short and as near pain-free as #3, they were still certainly within the range of VERY NORMAL with fairly short second stages. I guess I just need to accept that people are going to worry, no matter what.
So, the only people left to tell are my mom and my brother. If anything, they should be surprised that it took as long as it did to get pregnant again. Heck, with almost all the other kids, by this point in the youngest child's life (23 months), that child had already become an older sibling (exceptions between #2&3 and #3&4, because of those mid-trimester losses...there are 2.5 years' spacing on either side of lovely #3). My brother, God bless him, won't say anything negative to me...he knows I'm doing what makes me happy, staying home and raising my kids. My mom, though, will have concern for my health (you're not getting any younger) and my sanity (you don't get any time for yourself, it must be hard having so many kids, have you thought about sending a couple to school?).
The comments in the last post have been so supportive, so I give you all a heartfelt "Thanks."
DH can't keep a secret for long, so after telling the kids the other night, he decided to call his family yesterday to let them in on the secret. Reception, as he said, was typical: his mom and aunt seemed excited, and his dad created a new ulcer for himself. OK, so not really an ulcer, but his reaction wasn't as positive as MIL and aunt. It all stems for concern for my health, which I really don't comprehend given my history. OK, so yeah, we did lose two babies in the second trimester, but that had absolutely nothing to do with how I take care of myself during pregnancy. Those losses, we were told, were chromosomal in nature and there's a 25% chance of such a loss happening again.
BUT, (and it's a big one, eh?) all my other pregnancies have been so healthy, so uneventful, so blessedly normal that I think that fact alone should outweigh any worry about my health. I've never had problems with hypertension or gestational diabetes. And while none of the labors/births after our second miscarriage (which occurred after our third child) have come close to being as short and as near pain-free as #3, they were still certainly within the range of VERY NORMAL with fairly short second stages. I guess I just need to accept that people are going to worry, no matter what.
So, the only people left to tell are my mom and my brother. If anything, they should be surprised that it took as long as it did to get pregnant again. Heck, with almost all the other kids, by this point in the youngest child's life (23 months), that child had already become an older sibling (exceptions between #2&3 and #3&4, because of those mid-trimester losses...there are 2.5 years' spacing on either side of lovely #3). My brother, God bless him, won't say anything negative to me...he knows I'm doing what makes me happy, staying home and raising my kids. My mom, though, will have concern for my health (you're not getting any younger) and my sanity (you don't get any time for yourself, it must be hard having so many kids, have you thought about sending a couple to school?).
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